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Your Twenties: “Growing Pains”

“No band aids for the growing pains”

This isn’t a “How To” post on height growth, although if you know of any articles please feel free to leave the links in the comments below for this shmall human.

I’ve been experiencing a bit of writer’s block for a while now. I’ve started so many posts and deleted them half way through because sometimes words aren’t easy. So, today I finally got the idea to just vent about the craziness on rotation in my head and it got me here…hope you like it.

Lately, I have been thinking a lot about the lessons I’ve learned throughout my life. I thought more about lessons I keep having to relearn, almost as if certain chapters of my life have several sections like my High school Statistics textbook:

Chapter 20: Lesson 1.1 “Live a little”

                        Lesson 1.2 “Work hard, Play hard”

                        Lesson 1.3 “Seriously, chill bro” and so on….

I don’t pretend to know it all; I wouldn’t even know where to begin with faking like I do. What I do know though, is that each year I learn a little bit more about what I learned the previous year.

  • Brush and floss your teeth twice a day if you don’t want your dentist chastising you while they’re digging in your mouth.
  • Friends come and go, and while it doesn’t feel great when you’re losing them, eventually you will be okay. Don’t keep space for toxicity just because you don’t want to be alone. Good friends are out there!
  • Call your grandparents and parents from time to time. Make sure they’re okay.

And those are just some of  the easy lessons on rotation. There are harder ones to relearn and each year they hit me like a ton of bricks. Why do I put off setting a good self care routine for myself when I know I’m not handling stress well? Why won’t my friend just let her boyfriend know that he’s not treating her the way  she deserves to be treated? What holds us all back from being a little more honest about the things that don’t fulfill us? I think it’s a comfort thing. I don’t like to admit when I’m not feeling great because then I have to accept that there is work to be done. 

So over the summer, I tried implementing new ways to help with the growing pains of adulthood (and general living):

  • Find something you truly love doing just for yourself. For me, that’s visiting the library at least twice a month. It helps getting work, school, and my social life off my mind for a little bit.
  • Step away from electronics. No matter how well I curate the information I receive from social media, too much of anything can  become a bad thing. Log off sometimes, you won’t miss a thing.
  • Make time to be by yourself. Silence is a thing most people don’t enjoy but it’s necessary and the more you do it, the easier it becomes to make peace with it.
  • Write it down. Say it out loud. Throw it away. Shred it. Just let whatever is hurting you out. You may get something out of it…like a decent blog post.
Is it our human nature to learn things the hard way? What is the one lesson you keep having to relearn? How do you deal with growing pains? Let me know in the comments below.

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